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How to use a Penis condom

Sounds easy right? You’ve been doing it for years? But are you doing it correctly?

I have had so many people confess that they were never shown how to put one on and are still not sure they are doing it right. What a fail of Relationships and Sex Education. I still know people who believe that “two is better than one” myth and follow it.

So lets talk about penis condoms…

Why are condoms essential to sexual health?

First and foremost – SAFETY.

The concept of condoms have been around years – and I mean years. The modern condom is very different from the traditional pigskin, tortoiseshell, lamb intestines or oiled paper but aim to do the same thing: prevent unwanted pregnancy and STD’s.

Types of Condoms:

Latex – the most commonly used condoms
Textured – ridged, ribbed or dotted, this condoms are designed to enhance stimulation
Flavoured – add a bit of taste to your experience. MANY flavours are available
Lubricated – comes with extra lubrication for your pleasure
Latex-free – for those that cannot use the traditional latex condoms

Shop our favourites here:

How do I use it?

  • Start by opening the packet with care, making sure you don’t tear the condom
  • Pinch the tip (the sticky out bit that looks like a little hat) between two fingers. This makes sure that air isn’t trapped in the condom, which could result in breakage.
  • Place the condom on the end of the ERECT penis while still pinching the tip
  • Carefully and slowly, roll down the condom to cover the entirety of the penis whilst AGAIN still pinching the tip
  • If something goes wrong, it won’t roll down or you find its inside out – start again with a NEW condom. You may have accidentally got sperm on it

How do I take it off?

  • Once ejaculated, take the condom off whilst the penis is still hard
  • Tie the condom to ensure no sperm leaks, wrap the used condom in a tissue and chuck it in the bin
  • Make sure you are not in contact with your partner when removing the condom

Condoms Myths

Condoms can be used more than once: NO, just no! Condoms are one use only and should be disposed of after use.

All condoms are safe: Be careful where you buy condoms from, some may not be as effective. Buy condoms from a reputable source and check they have the CE or BSI kite mark. Always check condoms are in date, not broken or damaged and remember, no condoms are 100% effective. For more peace of mind – try other forms of contraception along with condoms.

Condoms are not needed for oral sex: STIs can be transferred by oral sex as well as vaginal and anal. You are still at risk of contracting gonorrhoea, chlamydia and herpes.

Two condoms are better than one: “Double-bagging” is an EXTREMELY bad sexual health practice and often makes the condom/s LESS effective than using the one. When you double up, the friction of movement and the friction between the condoms can lead to one or both tearing. This is also true for penis / vaginal condoms – only ever use one or the other.

Condoms don’t provide protection for skin-to-skin STIs: If the condom covers the infected skin, it has been shown to provide some protection against STIs such as herpes, genital warts and HPV. Remember they aren’t full proof as there is still a chance of skin-to-skin contact with the infected area.

Condom size doesn’t matter: Penis’ come in all shapes and size which means condoms need to as well. For them to be as effective as possible, they need to fit properly. If you use one too small or tight, the condom could tear or break. If you use one too big or loose, it could come off during sex OR leak sperm where you don’t want it.

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Your Quick Guide to Lube

Some people think sex should be an amazing and sensual experience, but what if you are in need of lube – does this ruin the mood? Lubrication aids are often used in sexual acts such as sex, masturbation or playing with sex toys and even make them more pleasurable.

Lube is great and can really boost your sex life. Its works from reducing the friction between your body and the thing you are using, eliminating chafing and rubbing. Even if people produce enough personal lubrication, maybe will still include an extra lubricant to add to sexual pleasure.

But how do I pick one? There is so many …

Waterbased Lubes – the closest wetness naturally produced by the body

The pros

  • Best lube for first timers
  • Generally safe for sex, masturbation, use with condoms and sex toys
  • Minimal irritation for your body will make a more comfortable and pleasurable playtime
  • FAR EASIER to clean of your body and bed sheets than other types of lube

The cons

  • Many drug store brands include Glycerin – an ingredient that can irritate the vaginas natural flow and cause yeast infections in some people
  • Bad for water or shower play as its not long lasting and will just wash away – also means its not great for one of those LONG sessions that are just so enjoyable

Aurora recommends …

Silicone Lubes – slippery, smooth and long-lasting

The pros

  • A lot less lube is needed – silicone lubricants require less lube to be applied AND lasts longer
  • Great to use for some play – solo or not. Silicone lubes don’t wash off easily in the shower like waterbased lube so ALWAYS the better option. (Be warned – it will make your shower floor a slip and slide if you’re not careful)
  • They are sometimes better for more sensitive bodies as it tends to be more slippery
  • They are hypoallergenic

The cons

  • It is a PAIN to wash off – where it is long lasting and good for shower play, you need soap and water to get this lube off of you after you’re done with playtime
  • They don’t play well with silicone sex toys – they can break them down over time. Although, don’t let that put you off using these types of lubes with other sex toys made from glass, hard plastic or steel

Aurora recommends …

Oil-based Lubes – the natural one

The pros

  • A longer lasting option for longer, pleasure sessions
  • Great for water play
  • The least messy lube on our list
  • Perfect addition for masturbation and sextoy play

The cons

  • NOT COMPATIBLE WITH LATEX CONDOMS – they will dissolve the latex and may cause the condom to break
  • They may stain your sheets
  • They are often more pricey with a shorter shelf life

Aurora recommends …

What to remember – when choosing your lube

  • If you regularly get yeast infections – AVOID any lubricants that contain glycerin. Glyercin with irritate and kill the good bacteria in your vagina. This can cause an infection.
  • If you are using condoms – do not use an oil based lubricant. They will render them ineffective as they breaks down the latex.
  • If you want to use a sex toy – try to stay away from silicone lubricant as it will damage your silicone based toys. Try to stick with water-based lubes when have toy time.
  • If you are prone to dryness – Try a silicone based lube. They are long lasting, don’t contain glycerin and won’t dry out really quickly.

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Why everyone should own a sex toy

First things first – sex toys are awesome. And enough people must agree with me as the industry is worth billions of pounds a year. But it is something that we don’t often openly talk about. Why? There seems to still be a slight taboo around them even in 2020. Yes, films like Fifty Shades of Grey (ooo, try they products – they are great) have definitely helped so why wouldn’t you want to own a sex toy.

  1. “It’s embarrassing to buy them”
  2. “I don’t know what I should buy”
  3. “I don’t know how to use them”
  4. “Why do I need one when I have a partner”

It’s embarrassing to buy them” – I know that even amongst my very sexually liberal friends, this is a quote that gets thrown around. I have been in a sex toy shop and wondered if other people are judging me for my purchases. But I can guarantee – those shop assistants see those products bought all the time and the other customers are either thinking the same thing as you, wondering what the products you’ve picked are like or haven’t even noticed you’re holding anything.

BUT this is why online shops like Aurora exist. When you buy any products from us – you don’t have to go into a shop and wonder what people think. You can sit in the comfort of your own home and browse to your hearts content. Adding to that, packaging is discreet so there will be no neighbours or postman knowing where you have been shopping. Never be embarrassed.

“I don’t know what I should buy” – I remember the first time I bought a sex toy with a partner and so many thoughts went through my head. Where do I start? What will work for me? There are so many products. My advice here is to get a sex toy kit. They give you a selection of products to try and will help you understand what you like and your own personal kinks. One of my favourites is The Insider Deluxe Kit. There is a mixture of things to try and arouse you.

“I don’t know how to use them” – Does it feel pleasurable? Yes. Then you’re probably using it in the right way. Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Yes. Probably stop using it in that way then. For more advice, we have pages of how tos to get you going.

“Why do I need one when I have a partner” – In all honesty, you probably don’t, but you are missing a whole world of pleasure. Sex toys are not instead of a partner. They can be used with a partner to help you explore a whole range of new sensations and feelings.

Sometimes raising the subject of buying sex toys with your partner might be daunting but sex is ALL about communication and being open. Creating a safe space to discuss you likes and dislikes will always help to improve your sex life.

This is why at Aurora Exquisite – we believe EVERYONE should own at least one sex toy and should feel open to talking about them. Not only are they fun, fantastic, orgasmic and improve your sex life but they also have added health benefits. So get your first one today.

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Alone on Valentines day?

I have spent many Valentine’s Days alone as well as many with others. With being less than a month away, I want show that Valentine’s Day alone does not have to be a depressing thing. I have had some pretty good ones.

First things first – don’t spend it alone. Get SOMETHING to keep you company. I have made some great suggestions below of toys I love for alone time. I like to have a bath and really make an evening of it. Bubbles, candles and maximum relaxation. Also can’t go wrong with a little erotica to get into the mood. If you want to start having some fun in the bath, we have PLENTY of toys to choose from. But don’t be hasty – there is all night to play.

Here are some great suggestions for play for the entire night …

Lingerie

It may sound strange, but I love to dress up for myself. It is a big confidence boost. I have a thing for bodies and playsuits at the moment.

Je Joue Nuo V2 Remote Controlled Butt Plug

I like to have a butt plug in every time I have some solo playtime. It just feels good and heightens all other sensations. Je Joue’s Nuo V2 is a great choice cause of it’s internal angle, wide base (massively important aspect for me) and the added bonus of it being a vibrator.

Jopen Key Pyxis Waterproof Vibrating Finger Massager

I have a love for this product. Its a great start to playtime. It’s also waterproof so able to start the fun in the bath

Lelo Ina Wave Vibrator

For one that has read anything I have written knows that this is one of my favourite products the moment. For me, this is the finishing product. Stimulating both inside and out as the shaft moves backward and forward hitting the g-spot.

ID Frutopia Personal Lube Mango

Important thing not to forgot – makes for a much better experience. And hey, I just love mango.

Lelo Premium Toy Cleaning Spray

And for when you’re done. Always clean your toys ready for next time, or later that night.

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My Favourite Toys

Here at Aurora Exquisite, not only do we sell these products but we LOVE to use them. Either playing on my own or with Damian, here are some of my personal favourites:

LELO Ina Wave – £139.99

If someone says what is your favourite “rabbit” product, it would be unusual that I didn’t pick this. If you look at our social media, you will know that I like to post this A LOT just because I love it. The difference from most rabbits is that not only does the shaft vibrate, but it moves to really caress your g-spot and gives an experience I just haven’t found with anything else

Rouge Garments Padded Blindfold – £16.99

Now I’m obsessed with being blindfolded (as a lot of people are). It’s definitely difficult to pick a favourite blindfold as there isn’t dramatic differences. However, the additional padding on the Rouge Garments blindfolds add extra comfort whilst still maintain the heightened feeling of taking away your sight. 

Nexus Excite Anal Beads – £13.99

For those that have never tried anal play and think it’s not for them should start with a simple butt plug or anal beads. I really like using anal beads during intercourse as it seems to intensify the feel of Damian’s cock and Nexus have definitely got it right. Give it a try.

Fifty Shades Freed Rabbit Ring – £37.99

This is the first of 3 Fifty Shades products on this list. Admittedly, I thought the quality of the Fifty Shades range would be rubbish, but I was pleasantly surprised. Not only do the products look great but they feel good too. When playing with Damian, it is a great addition for a bit of fun.

Fifty Shades Freed Silk Rope – £11.99

If you haven’t guessed I’m crushing on the Fifty Shades range, here is another great product I’m all for. Their silk rope is great for a bit of light bondage and I love to pair this the blindfold (either on me or Damian, depends on our mood). This is great for beginners, but remember to check how carefully you’re tying it

Fifty Shades of Grey Riding Crop – £19.99

For me, a riding crop is a staple of any sex toy collection and is just fun. Whether you’re into light spanking or something a little more extreme, this is a great starter if you’re new to bondage and pain play. We often interchange through a session with this and the teaser (no. 8). Especially if blindfolded, you never know what you’re gonna get which always boosts the excitement for me. 

LELO Sona Clitoral Stimulator – £89.99

One of my most shocking list entries. I heard many people say that these clitoral stimulators are the new thing, so I ordered one. First thought – this feels really weird! But once I got over this thought, OMG multiple orgasms easy. This is a firm regular for us. 

LELO Tantra Feather Teaser – £24.99

Now this is great, especially if you’re blindfolded or eyes closed. Clearly, self play doesn’t have quite the same effect as multiple play, but the light tickle touch of this product routine sends me crazy. It is light, sensual and teasing! 

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Aurora’s Manifesto

Here at Aurora Exquisite, there many things that we see and don’t like. Things that effect us and our hygiene and we want to put a stop to them. See us add more to find out what we’re doing?

  1. NO strings in Kegel Balls and Love Eggs. OMG, just the cleaning on them is difficult. All we want is silicone or a non-absorbent materials. I really don’t want to come to my next with my beloved love egg and find bodily fluids on there from last play.
  2. NO separation of Plus Size from other lingerie! I don’t understand why some lingerie is marked as “plus-size”… many even the EXACT same piece. Aurora will be combining “plus size” and non-plus size as soon as possible.

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Setting The Mood

So, you have got your goodies, and you have all the people you need to play with (All our toys are designed for one or more people). Now what?

Now it is time to make your you are set up to maximise your pleasure. Sometimes all you want is a quick buzz, and then to move on, and that is great, but what if you’re going to make the event a bit more special?

For a start, you want to block out some time. Enjoyment is like anything else in your life, in that if you do not make time for it, it will fall by the wayside and be forgotten in the hustle-bustle of modern life.

Don’t forget; foreplay can start before everyone is assembled, set yourself up with a relaxing bath to let the stresses of life melt away before you melt with someone else. Use a beautiful bath salts set to completely pamper yourself.

If you are playing with other people, make sure they have some time blocked out as well, no one wants to be rushing to the finish while looking at the clock!

Make sure you have a space to play in and make it a pleasant place to be. Some basics that everyone can do is to make it fresh and inviting.

Don’t forget about lighting. Candles can be used for the traditional mood setter, and we love that the right ones can have multiple uses. We have massage candles that not only smell awesome but are a great way to warm up and get more intimate and relaxed with people.

So go in, indulge yourself, and others, and make today epic.

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Why did I want to start Aurora Exquisite?

Why did I want to start Aurora Exquisite?

Firstly, I wanted to create a space where anyone could feel comfortable to talk about and purchase products that are still widely seen as taboo. We are still encouraged not to talk about these topics in public and hide toys away if people come to visit. I know, I have had both. But, why should we feel this way?

Secondly, I always said that I would not start a business unless I felt really strongly about what I was doing and what it could achieve; for myself and others. Until I met Damian, I really did think that this subject was still relatively taboo and shouldn’t be spoken about. Although I have always been open about sex and my personal exploits, I have often been condemned for it. He made me realise that sex and toys are a natural need in many peoples lives, it is just not spoken about openly. This is something that I would like to attempt to change. I have never understood why sex, an act at the very least humans need to procreate, is frowned upon. Why can’t we celebrate it? It has been celebrated in certain cultures since the dawn of time and it something natural and exciting to explore. 

Finally, when I was at university completely my undergraduate degree in Psychology, I took a module in sexual health. It made me realise that sexual happiness and wellbeing is fundamental in creating a satisfying and exciting sex life. I have been interested in the history and culture of sex as well as exploring pleasure in a sexual context ever since.  

Sex should be enjoyable, exciting and promote wellness in your life.